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667541 Travis : ok 1. hi back 2. of course I can 3. normal in the prison 4. no, it's a graveyard shift as always, it's presently 2 am 5. Ruslan is your bf I suppose and 6. If he is your bf and you're still thinking that by making you breakfast and walking you to school is a waste of his time I would suggest a stronger medication
667542 Travis : If you put him on a pedestal, and necessarily you see yourself as undeserving, maybe it's not a good pairing
667543 Travis : He's just a guy, not a God, and you should be his equal, not his pet
667544 Travis : Why do you think any time he spends on your is charity?
667545 Travis : You need to build yourself up a little, or bring him down a step or two, that is a dysfunctional relationship lol
667546 Travis : You can have a win/win relationship, but only if you don't see yourself as nothing compared to you
667547 Travis : You're putting yourself in the down position which is fine if both parties agree......but it rarely works.....anyway, good luck
667548 Travis : That will be $50
667549 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : You know I didn't use to think like that, he just kept mentioning in every fight that every time we walked or did sth together it was a waste of time and he did it out of love or I "forced" him bc there were some of his feelings left or some other shit to place me responsible
667550 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : in the beginning of a realationship i would have expected this behaviour actually
667551 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : but now as i dont even know if we date (and neither does he)
667552 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : and the way he described every activity together retrospectively as a huge waste of time, even the one in the beginning, I percieve it as a charity
667554 charliedontsurf : Why would you choose to stay with a guy who tells you openly that any time spent with you is a waste of time? Are you really that insecure? What's so great about this guy?
667555 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : thanks for the opinion though, it helps to hear a sane person talking on the subject
667556 charliedontsurf : What a douchebag to constantly remind you of how great he is, and how low you are....and you play into it
667557 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : damn thats true
667558 charliedontsurf : oh, I'm sane now lol you used to say I was a psychopath, and not too long ago lol
667559 charliedontsurf : What exactly is he bringing to the relationship that makes him king of the hill?
667560 charliedontsurf : And why do you obediently buy into it that you're the low-rung on the ladder?
667561 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : well I guess bc he helped me a bit when we met, and i saw that as an ideal proof of love, plus I rarely meet the combination of intelligence and introvercy and ease and the way he is a unique person
667562 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : now that i think of it, really nothing
667563 charliedontsurf : Sounds like you deserve someone that respects you as an equal, not a petty plaything he can verbally abuse and expect you to stay
667564 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : Charlie you're the nicest guy on earth
667565 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : And that is true i guess there is nothing logical about my love
667566 charliedontsurf : You put WAY too much emphasis on intelligence I think, better to have a good guy that respects you than a perceived genius
667567 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : hmm might be true
667568 charliedontsurf : I'm not the nicest guy on Earth either lol (You're easily influenced)
667569 charliedontsurf : Lots of bright guys out there that are assholes
667570 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : nah it doesn't mean I mean it literally, that is just a figure of speech. I do see you as a nice person though and a good psychologist
667572 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : yeah i think it's the combination of an asshole and a good guy that makes it so difficult to move on
667573 charliedontsurf : Wow, I didn't even break a sweat
667575 charliedontsurf : You always seem to fall for guys you think are really intelligent...why?
667576 charliedontsurf : I mean you don't want an idiot, I get it, but is that your first qualifier over everything else?
667577 charliedontsurf : It's like looks....when you find your special guy.....and down the road 30 years you will both have lost your looks.....but the asshole remains
667578 charliedontsurf : Then was it worth it?
667579 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : no, there are lots of other things. I think that at least the guy should be smart enough to not tell me how to live or what to change
667581 charliedontsurf : Better to have a guy you trust, that trusts you and cherishes you....however corny that sounds
667582 charliedontsurf : Right......bingo......find a guy that loves you and accepts you for the person you are NOW....and don't renege....do that for yourself.....don't hope you'll "change" and be a more subservient partner
667583 charliedontsurf : You're a human, not a caterpillar...no pupae stage will make you "passable" for him....
667584 charliedontsurf : You're either acceptable now or you're not.....if you are, try to make it work, if you always think you have to pretend or hope one day you'll be his equal....you're dating the wrong man
667585 charliedontsurf : And if he allows you to think that if you just do this and this and that you'll be acceptable to him, you really are in need of a self-help book lol
667586 charliedontsurf : May I suggest Your Erroneous Zones and Pulling Your Own Strings by Wayne Dyer haha
667587 charliedontsurf : good grief, Bob?
667588 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : lol you should write books Jon
667589 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : you are really a good psychologist
667590 bob : Is this the relationship counselling 101?
667591 charliedontsurf : I practically did, just now
667592 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : lool bob
667593 charliedontsurf : apparently Bob
667594 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : join in, bob, whats your problem
667595 charliedontsurf : He wets the bed, Olga
667596 bob : i dont have a relationship problem
667598 bob : my wife tells me what to do and i do it
667600 charliedontsurf : That's okay as long as both partners agree on the situation
667602 charliedontsurf : That's a one-down relationship but it can work if you both like the arrangement
667603 charliedontsurf : But usually the down partner builds resentment, and after awhile they bring out a gun or a long sword
667605 charliedontsurf : In Olga's case an AK-47
667606 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : do you think Elliott Smith was killed by his down partner Chiba?
667607 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : or did stick the knife itno his own chest
667608 charliedontsurf : What?
667609 charliedontsurf : I don't know these buffoons
667610 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : lol he was a great musician, folk i think
667611 charliedontsurf : Elliott Smith aka Long Wang, committed hari kari
667612 charliedontsurf : oh no wonder....
667613 charliedontsurf : he looks pasty and needs to use shampoo and conditioner...I'd kill myself too
667614 charliedontsurf : Wait, is that a guy or a girl?
667615 charliedontsurf : It's more androgynous than Boy George or Bowie
667616 charliedontsurf : a k.d. lang clone
667617 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : lol i think he was violated by his stepfather or sth, so he was in a constant depression
667618 charliedontsurf : the alcohol and drug abuse probably didn't help either
667619 charliedontsurf : looks like Chiba supposedly pulled the knife out of his chest....bad mistake
667620 charliedontsurf : always leave the blade in until you get to the hospital lol
667621 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : yes.. the coroner's report had unusual for suicide marks
667622 charliedontsurf : I still think he's k. d. lang
667623 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : and the absense of others
667624 charliedontsurf : he stabbed himself in the chest twice, also fishy
667626 charliedontsurf : so you have a fascination with suicide, is that it?
667627 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : i dont know what fascination really means. Does it count if youre a loser and cant take life so youre afraid of both death and life so you think about both?
667628 charliedontsurf : You should watch a movie called Harold and Maude
667629 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : do you have a fascination with anything?
667630 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : i will lol
667631 charliedontsurf : so you think you're a loser?
667632 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : nah not really, just a soft character
667633 charliedontsurf : and what exactly does "can't take life" mean?
667634 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : hmm I guess it means that you cannot accept simple existential facts of human life
667635 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : also everything is a tragedy
667636 charliedontsurf : I have things I like to do, sure....but fascination....let me think about it
667637 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : you can't take a hit
667638 charliedontsurf : a hit or a hint?
667639 sonvzvezdnuyunoc : a hit of life lol
667640 charliedontsurf : existential facts lol
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